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Tuesday, April 10, 2018

Grandparents Day 2018!


          Grandparents Day 2018

April 10, 2018 – Oakwood Elementary School, Severn, Maryland



My three kids all grew up with solid grandparents in their lives seen on a constant basis and for many years they had great-grandparents in their lives that made a lasting impression and memory on their lives that I will for always be grateful for.

My grand kids have never lived around any of their grandparents, until this past summer when my Son moved his family out to Maryland about 2 hours away from me.  We’ve always been coasts apart and I usually only got out to see them about once a year, not near enough time to develop lasting memories or relationships for sure.
But, since they’ve been out here I’ve been out there a few times and they came out at Christmas.  Due to some serious health issues, my visits have been less and less, but Grandparents Day at Emma’s School came up and NOTHING was going to stop me from going.  I didn’t care what I had to do or how I felt, I was going to be at that school!
I don’t remember when my kids were in school if they ever had Grandparents Day at school, but this morning when the principal talked to us “Grandparents” he said it was the first time in 3 years since they’ve done it and they were very thrilled to have us there.

The school did a remarkable job at providing a rewarding experience for the Grandparents and all the children.  They made sure all the students in the classroom experienced having a “Grandparent” even if they didn’t have one there.  In Emma’s class there were only 4 of us and I really didn’t count how many students there were in her class, but there had to have at least been 20.
 
Before we were sent to our grandchild’s classroom we had a reception in the cafeteria and they pulled out all the stops.  Very organized, friendly and quite a spread on top of all of that.  Coffee, tea, fruit juice, fresh fruit and any type of pastry you could ever want.  I was very impressed.  The principal talked with us briefly on some of the “rules” and what would be taking place during the morning.  It went from 8:30am to 11:00am.So, off we went at 8:30 and I was sent out on my own down a hall to find Emma’s classroom, feeling my heart beating faster and faster as I knew I was getting closer.  I peaked inside the door and the teacher asked which student I was looking for and before I could even say her name I hear this loud shriek “Grandma!!!!”  There was my Emma with both her hands raised above her head and literally ran from clear across the room into my arms.  I gave her a huge hug and off she went to do what the teacher had previously told her what to do…lol

She was very obedient, listened to her teacher, always raised her hand, was polite and helpful to other students.  The first thing we did was talk about “peace” and what “peace” means.  Some of what the students said were typical responses, but one boy asked his teacher if it had to be a person and the teacher had a silly look on her face and I’m thinking to myself, sure can be!

So, he proceeded to talk about how his dogs were peaceful to each other.  So sweet!  My answer was countries could be peaceful to each other, but she didn’t ask us “Grandparents” …lol

Then we had morning announcements via a video feed with two students.  One obviously was the dominant one and the other one clearly didn’t want to be there as she threw papers off the table.  I tried not to laugh, but I think she was nervous more than anything.  Finally, the principal stepped in and gave the announcements after the girls gave the Pledge of Allegiance.  I was happy to see they still do that in schools and it was fun to stand and do that in a classroom again.

So, after all that, the teacher was taking full advantage of having more “mature” students in her classroom that day and we talked about artifacts.  She came up with 5 pictures of much older items and the students were to come up with questions that might help them understand what that item would be.  So, Emma and I went through all 5 stations and she came up with most of the questions (we weren’t supposed to tell them what they were, which was good because a few I had no clue myself), but we could help them come up with some questions.  

After everyone did the 5 stations we re-grouped and talked about what some of our questions were for each item.  Then the teacher revealed what the item was.  

A Camera



A Gas Lantern – I could not even find a picture for this it was so ancient

A washing Machine



A Radiator Heater



A phone Booth



After that activity was over I took Emma and we went and had our pictures taken together and went to the Book Fair.  Now, I remember Book Fairs very well.  Brian and Mallory weren’t so keen on them, but Meagan…. she wanted every book they had on the list.  Sweet Emma had her list too and she was quite proud of it.  

We had pictures first.  I was so appreciative and thought it was so nice of the school to bring in Lifetouch to take pictures of the Grand kids with their Grandparents.  Such a wonderful treat!  I HATE having my picture taken and I had my hair cut to get bangs and the ditsy lady cut them way to short, so I was not pleased, but Emma is adorable!  So, pictures were fun, even though I hated my own picture.

Next, off to the book fair!  Cameron had sent Emma with money ahead of time and gave me a head up and once I saw Emma’s list I knew there were going to be some items “cut out”.  I told her we needed to get something for Tristan and she said Mommy said the same thing, so we got his first.  She thought he would like a dinosaur book, so we got that.  It was kind of cool.  Then on to her list. 



This girl LOVES to read and I’m so happy to see it!  She did get a few non-reading items, but mostly great stuff and she loves her animals!  When we got to the check-out and the lady told us how much I turned to Emma and I said “Honey, we have to take some things back, it’s too much”  She was happy to weed out what she didn’t want and the ladies behind the counter were actually really helpful because they saw most of her reading level and one book she had picked out had only 3-4 words on a page and they showed that to her and she said “No, I don’t want that one”.  Phew, another one down!  I didn’t want to get into trouble with Mom and Dad.

She was overly happy with her book purchases and I was concerned she was going to get them all home ok.  They were heavy!  She assured me she would be ok. So, back to the classroom and picked up where they were doing a game with telling time with a clock and not a digital clock.  Emma told me she couldn’t tell time, so I did the first one and made her do the rest and I told her “She, you do to know how to tell time!”  “You did an excellent job!”  

After that we did my favorite part, well, it all was, but this was fun too.  The teacher took advantage of us “mature” adults yet again and had a list of questions for the kids to “interview” us.  So, we split the class up between us 4 grandmas’ and each one took turns asking questions from the list the teacher already made up. Stuff like, how many siblings did I have, what was my favorite subject in school.  I said spelling, Emma proudly said “Reading” …Really???? I hadn’t guessed…lol.  I’m so glad she loves to read.  She sure takes after her Aunt Meagan in that respect. Then other questions like how we spent the holidays, what games did I play when I was there age, did I play sports, and several others.  It was fun to be interviewed by 2nd graders, I must admit!

Now, I would like to say a few things after the students in Emma’s class and I’m sure it’s like this is most classroom across the country.  First, ALL teachers and school administrators deserve so much more than what they receive, not just monetarily, but with respect!  I don’t know how old this school was, but they were doing a fund drive for new folding chairs because the folding chairs they had were the original ones to the building, folding wooden ones and several students had gotten splinters from them. 

I only, of course, witnessed Emma’s Class and her teacher had the patience of a saint.  There were some “challenging” students and I remember some of those students in my classes in elementary school too.  I still even remember their names! One young boy took an extreme interest in my name badge and quizzed me to the ninth degree on what it said, why it said it and why my picture wasn’t on it.  I, of course, was kind and patient with him and answered him sweetly and made sure he got all his answers.  As I was leaving the classroom to go home, he ran to me and gave me a hug.  

One girl, who Emma was so helpful with spoke NO English and she was in our “Interview” activity. When it was the girls turn to ask me a questions Emma would very nicely tell her to point and showed her on the paper how to point to a question.  So, she did, and I answered the question.  Emma then wrote the answer and showed her how to write the answer.  She did that with her during the entire activity.  I was so impressed with my little granddaughter for being so helpful and kind. I did find it distressful how this 2nd grader who spoke no English was ever going to learn English by this method, not taking anything away from Emma being such a great helpful mind you, just maybe someone falling through a stressed education system unable to cope with “all” scenarios.

Then there was another frail girl in our “interview” activity that had ratty clothes, cuts and bruises on her face and neck and made my heart ache.  She was inquisitive and asked me questions not even on the list.  She was bright and outspoken, but not rudely outspoken, just not afraid to speak up.  She impressed me as well.

Then, of course, in all class in all the ages you have those that don’t listen, the teacher used the counting technique many times in the short time I was in her classroom.  One child demanded more attention than others, he happened to be my “name badge reader”.  She also answered each child with the same tone, mild authority and proven patience, meaning the child had to earn her patience. She would always give a warning and then start counting.  She never had to get to 5.

So, for me…. Grandparents Day if I lived across the country again…I would fly just to be there, it was that powerful!  Not just for me, but for Emma, the other students in the classes and the faculty.  



As my kids went through school, especially elementary school their Dad and I were always active in their school, volunteering.  I was always in the PTA in one school and very active in volunteering weekly and their Dad volunteered in another school constantly.  It’s so important!  It’s so valuable and the students and faculty need our help, especially now more than ever with school safety at such scary risk factor. 
As my last few words, if you are invited to attend your grandchild’s Grandparents Day, GO! GO!, GO!  It will mean so much to SO many people and impact there live(s) for many years if not generations to come!

Today I am a Grandma of 4, but today I was JUST EMMA’S GRANDMA and it felt damn good!




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